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Cured My Panic Disorder by the Neuroscience of Meditation

Monday, May 4th, 2009
Andre Zizi asked:


My out of body travels into exhilarating spiritual realm experience [ Articles : Main ]

Sample chapter of my book entitled

‘ The Two Psychological Tools That Determine Failure or Success’

Cool summer time – during my terrifying moment of panic disorder, I found rest and healing in the spiritual science of meditation. As I craved to go beyond bodily form, and into spiritual realm of consciousness, I discovered the possibilities of bizarre out of body travels.

I consulted few authentic books of out of body projection, and learnt form experienced out of body travellers to ensure it is safe and harmless. I was scared at the beginning, but only after experiencing hundreds of sessions of different types of meditation, was I ready for out of body travel.

This was something I never believed in, being a philosophy graduate, I needed justification, but then I realised there are things that cannot be explained, and can only be experienced, and if they are going to be explained, it will take time to prove scientifically that out of body travels can be proven. I realised that my intellectual bigotry arrested and hijacked both my emotional intelligence, and my spirituality.

Read what happen to me during an amazing out of body experience.

I went away for a weekend retreat at the monastery called buck-fast abbey in Devon. It was spring time. I was warmly welcomed by the monks, showed me the way to my bedroom, and was given a little tour around the abbey, as well as a brief instruction that I was given to be aware of their timetable for prayers, breakfast, launch, afternoon tea, and supper. The first day, I wanted to deepen my meditation; I drifted into hours of meditation, both sitting and walking meditation.

OUTSIDE: The yellow gold sun, and it’ oscillating light, the earth dressed with green pasture, rivers, ponds, meadows, mother nature landscaped, spreading animal farms and sublime colours shone from below and above, at night the moon glittered with silver light, skies filled with clusters of stars. These four nature’s beauty reflects a divine design of an artist background tapestry in which “Outer World” life on earth is the bride.

INSIDE: My conscious self and soul self in discord, my mind, feelings, my body, my soul reflect my own imperfect design at the time of my beginning meditation, in which my ” inner world” become a divided piece of puzzle seeking union with the divine designer. As my meditation deepened, the pieces of my own design begun to converge, thought and feelings, body and soul reunites with the bride, sun and moon, landscape and stars.

I hear a sound of serene music, far and beyond this world, the flute of a master, and the sweet harp of the angels. Over sudden, I hear a sound of a river boat, as it gently touch the very shoreline, as I climbed with a feeling of reassurance, I knew I had the right to a trip toward a very special island in the middle of the lake.

The sound of sweet flute and harp amplified the lake. As I stepped out of the boat, the strong rainbow colours of mist over the small island begins to thin; mystic music of the flute and harp raised my awareness of the clear silver blue sky so clear, though the small island is shrouded in thin rainbow coloured mist. What a beautiful island… what a perfect emerald gem…..tall glowing palm leaves; crystal clear spring waters cascading over… dark…deep covered rocks. The sound of the flute blessed existence as a whole, and the music of the harp gathered the smell of musk, daffodils, eucalyptus and lavender of angelic presence…. Butterflies glittering with vivid colours; fleeting around, below and above the entire sacred island.

I felt such a deep sense of peace, nourishment and nurture… I was so safe once and for all. As I looked over head, at the great expense of the blue sky directly over head…..I saw a light …shimmering oscillating light from the heavens above me… the sound of sweet flute continued, and the harp mystic sound appear to come from above, from the shimmering light, far above in the blue high sky. As I watched with reverence, the light shone stronger, intensely bright as it expanded over the island in the middle of the lake. The light begun to descend toward me, as it gently descend very slowly, down, and down… as the sound of both flute and harp continued playing its hypnotic music.

I suddenly became aware of a very round orb, a round sphere, oscillating with trillions of rainbow colours of light, shimmering sparkling sphere of light….falling in slow motion toward me, down… down… down…this huge sphere, huge orb of coloured light.. it is so beautiful…the surface seems to shimmer and sparkle… sparkling rainbow colours fleeting and moving across its surface. I felt such a sense of awe, wonderment, and joy filling me… for I realised inside this orb… is my angel… flute and harp harmonized the entire experience,

I sat down in yogi position on the green meadow pasture as a baby looking and feeling ever so joyous of this angelic presence, pulsing with radiant energy, colours, and warm breeze, landed right before me, right before my own eyes, it’s now in front of me…. … … the way of a flower opens to the morning sun… the top of the orb begins to open… … like a great clusters of oscillating particles of silver blue, pink and white colours… opening fully, and within a centre is… my angel… my Holy God, I for the first time of my existence, felt an infinite love… an infinite compassion… radiant from this light, this angel,

As the mystic soft music of the flute and harp played along, the voice of the angel spoke with same sound of both flute and harp, ever so gently, saying.. I am you dear one. Me? I murmured with awe and reverence. Yes dear one, I am you… your yearned for my presence for long time, your thoughts manifested me by your earnest desire to find your real self. I am thee… you have travelled a long way… and I shall manifest your dreams according to your earnest desire, thoughts, beliefs, faith, and action, said the angel. Continue in your spiritual path, live your dreams, and remember that I am thee, I am a whisper away from thee.

I wake up, and returned to my physical world astonished at the spiritual revelation as I returned home from the retreat house feeling totally transformed.

Strange, bizarre, real, imagined, whatever a sceptic says, the experience will always remain subjective, and mine. The only way to discover it is to experience it. smile

You Can contact me via Email for radio interview or TV appearance if you want to hear interesting real life stories. Andrezizi@hotmail.com

07999 579 135 Andre



Christopher

 

Graphology at Home – Lesson 3 – the Zones

Wednesday, March 25th, 2009
Joel Engel asked:


The authoritative Swiss graphologist Max Pulver (1889-1952) composed the chart below, showing many of the points discussed in the previous chapter. But in addition to demonstrating slant, it also demonstrates the zones.

If we were to superimpose a written word with a t in it on the spot marked I (Ego) Present, and the t coincided with the straight up-and-down line, we would be talking about a vertical writer. If the t veered to the right, we see from the chart that it would point toward the future. Were it to veer to the left, it would point toward the past. But this same word-say, the word “height”-also reaches into an upper and lower dimension. Upper, middle, and lower areas are called dimension zones, and they make up the zonal area.

Think of a child’s drawing-a boy standing on a piece of land, the sun shining and some clouds above. Zones are something like that picture. The upper zone represents sky, clouds, the sun-by extension what is high, spiritual, religious, lofty. Conversely, the lower zone represents earth, solidness, what is underfoot-things that are basic, common, earthy, materialistic, sexual. The middle zone is the person, the ego, the me.

When handwriting is predominantly in one zone, we see a powerful key to personality. Handwriting confined to the middle zone demonstrates the social person, the today person, the one concerned with Number One and lacking spiritual as well as physical drive.

Picture the word “height” laid out on a zonal chart; each zone is 3 millimeters in height, which is the norm.

If the rest of the writing is consistently in the same zones, we say there is balance in this writer. Where the zones fluctuate, the graphologist looks to see what the changes are and analyzes them. If the writer constantly changes the angle of his writing, we see a moody individual, unreliable in his reactions. Where the zones vary, it indicates a shift in motivation.

Take, for instance, the case of a man whose upper-zone writing ordinarily averages three millimeters in height-the norm. Suddenly, the upper zone dwindles to an average of one millimeter. This represents a shifting away from aspirations, spirituality as motivating factors. Usually such a change is accompanied by increased size in one of the other two zones, as if the energy normally expended in the spiritual zone has been shifted to the ego or sexual zones.

In addition to writing that consistently covers all zones and writing where there is no consistency whatsoever, we have six other combinations of zonal areas:

The upper zone as the largest. This reveals a person with high aspirations but too little interest in social life, because he has a relatively small lower zone. Although he strives toward high goals, it is doubtful if he will achieve them, because he lacks stamina.

High aspiration coupled with physical stamina is evidenced by both the upper and lower zones being large. However, since his middle zone is quite shrunk, his handling of everyday affairs may be off, and consequently the two positive aspects of his character may not take their proper effect.

A small upper zone shows that the writer probably has little spirituality and few aspirations. His middle zone is average, which reveals a normal social life, but because the accent in this writer’s script is on the lower zone, we see someone who is preoccupied with physical pleasures. If the lower zone loop is long and straight down, it is the sign of sexual pleasure; if the lower zone loop is inflated, it shows money, materialism.

One of the greatest of all heavyweight boxers, the “champion among champions,” Jack Dempsey shows by his signature great physical pleasure and much physical interest. His long, heavy, lower-zone structures-this kind of writing is usually found among super athletes.

The saddest picture is perhaps that of a writer whose script seems to have everything but an upper zone, and who therefore has neither imagination nor ideals, neither intellectual interests nor ambitions, no real pride, no ethics and, I dare to say, no brains.

There seems to be no such thing as a well-developed single zone. If one zone is clearly more strongly developed than the other two, it is usually overdeveloped. Overdevelopment of one zone always occurs at the expense of one or both of the other.

Then we have a large middle zone, a large lower zone, and a small upper zone. This person is a social butterfly. He has strong physical desires, but whether these are material or sexual depends on the shape of the lower zone loop. The small upper zone implies that he has little aspiration.

At first glance, a praiseworthy sort of person will write the upper zone large (strong aspiration), middle zone large (doing well socially) but the problem is if hardly any lower zone exists. This is not healthy: the individual needs a proper sexual outlet, and this writer does not seem to have a normal one. Where there is strong sexual repression, sadism, masochism, or other unlovely outlets for desire tend to appear.

Picture the middle zone that predominates. The upper and lower zones are small, showing little spirituality and little desire for material pleasure. The large middle zone hints that social life preoccupies the writer. This is found more often among women than among men, who usually have a small middle zone. In general, women are more interested in social affairs than men are.

A small middle zone, on the other hand, represents strong powers of concentration. People who have small middle-zone letters (a, c, e, and any letter that does not have an upper or lower loop) show great ability at doing work requiring attention to detail. Many scientists, Einstein among them, have very small or even microscopic middle zone letters. Notice the writing in Polish of Marie Curie:

In addition to the tiny middle zone, note the curly Greek d’s, showing culture. Some g’s and y’s are made without return strokes showing good judgment and mathematical ability. And to top it off, the t-bars are bowed, showing well-controlled basic instincts, a personality less emotional and more objective than most. Thus, the fine qualities that made this woman a great scientist are plain to read in her handwriting.

Now that we have covered both the slants and the zones, you will frequently notice that zones have different slants.

Let us take an example. Sometimes handwriting will be dominantly right-slanted or upright, but the astute observer can detect a regularly occurring pattern of left tending strokes, particularly with the end strokes.

These must generally be interpreted as left-slanted writing with the additional understanding that the father-protest is more deeply repressed in these cases.

Similar left-tending strokes in generally right-tending or upright hands may appear in the upper zone as t-strokes or in the middle zone, for instance, as left-slanted r’s. Their very inharmonious suddenness is ominous: an unrepressed, clearly conscious and guiding protest amid what looks like, peace and acceptance, characteristic of very difficult and unpredictable personalities (Hitler).

Not only do the various slants and zones interrelate, the inflation and deflation of the letters within play a prime role.

For example, this is Palmer’s copybook a:

but this writer has deflated it to:

without adding anything: a conventional, unimaginative businessman;

while I believe the writer of this initial o:

suffers from social timidity. Deflation may progress to the point where the two strokes meet each other. We then speak of concealing strokes:

Inflation, on the other hand, is an opportunity the hand of the imaginative (or sometimes merely fanciful) writer never will miss: widening his circles, “grasping and accepting” a new era, so to speak, comparable to the pretensions of his intellectual horizon and the broadness of his imagination.

The handwritten P covers much more territory than Palmer’s, and the same holds true of the b. (both letters are from the hand of a professional journalist and author; the inflation is therefore in the upper zone.)

Most inflated letters may be interpreted according to the zone in which they stand. In the upper zone, the inflated letter indicates intellectual imagination, in the middle zone, it bespeaks the writer’s self-confidence.

The height of the two t’s being approximately the same, the writer (female) has inflated and widened her o; she also has widened the connecting link between the t and the o; and she has split the t. She is receptive and aware of her values, with a pet idea hidden within the purposely split t.

In the lower zone are the circular gestures that betray our unconscious drives and urges. As is always the case with pressure, they speak for our instinctual, sexual anxieties and hopes; without pressure, for our (unconscious) preoccupation with a person’s deep, instinctual, yet somewhat socialized, needs for security, financial and otherwise. The former is exemplified by the signature; the latter by the f.

Pulver described these highly inflated lower loops as “money bags,” originating in a “money complex.” The crass disproportion between this hand’s upper (intellectual) zone and the inflated lower zone loop seems to confirm Pulver’s view.

Sometimes, inflated letters give a hint as to their meaning because they are “deformed” and the deformation “points” in certain directions.

The most frequent case in the lower zone is the unconscious mother fixation.

It is, of course, no accident that three out of the four samples of mother fixation are taken from left-slanted handwritings; left slant and mother fixation goes together.

Returning to the complete circular stroke, it may be recalled that one meaning of the circle is that of defense. Neurotic writers sometimes use the circle to “protect” themselves against the “outside forces” that cause their neurotic f ears and anxieties, and in such cases they draw a circle or circles around their name. Experience shows that these “magic circles” not only protect their deep neurotic fearfulness, but may also contain anti-social impulses, which lurk within the hidden recesses. Increasing Right Slant at the end of words: Writer’s interest in a thing grows the more he studies it; inability to hide his true intentions; optimism overpowers his original reserve; hot¬ headedness; when excited, writer loses self-control; quick temper.

Diminishing Right Slant at the end of words:

Writer’s interest in a thing diminishes the more he studies it; pessimism overcomes his original enthusiasm; skepticism is stronger than confidence; he backs out or asks for additional security just when everything seems settled; incurable pessimism.

Middle Zone Left-slanted

(upper zone and lower zone upright or right slanted):

Intellectually and emotionally drawn to fellow men, but has difficulty in bringing himself to be one of them; sacrifices himself for a family claim (his mother or sister)

Lower Zone Left-slanted (upper zone and middle zone upright or right¬ slanted):

Sexual inadequacy or resignation to an incomplete sexual life.

Increasing Left Slant (at the end of words in upright handwriting):

Pessimism overpowers initial interest in a thing.

Sporadic Left traits

(in upright or right slanted handwriting):

Skepticism; distrust; victim of inner conflicts; (together with split letters) schizophrenic disposition.

Left-Slanted End Strokes (m upright or right slanted handwriting, with pressure):

Unresolved father-protest, obstinacy, stubbornness.

Examination for Lesson 3

1. What are the names of the three zones?

2. Handwriting confined exclusively to the middle zone reflects what traits?

3. When writing shows the upper zone to be the largest, the lower zone relatively small, what character traits are indicated?

4. Which zone is emphasized in Jack Dempsey’s script?

5. Describe Marie Curie’s middle zone and its meaning

6. Which zone is dominant in the following script… what is indicated?

7. A handwriting can be dominantly right-slanted or upright, when there is a regular occurring pattern of left tending (end) strokes, (as in the sample below) these (left tending end strokes) are to be interpreted as left slanted strokes.

True?___ False?___

8. Which type of writing slant is called not ‘natural’?

9. When one deflates his writing, is he more apt to exhibit social timidity or imagination?

A. Social timidity___ B. Imagination___

10. An inflated letter in which zone indicates intellectual imagination? Which zone ‘betrays’ unconscious drives and urges?

11. How is the unconscious mother fixation detected from one’s writing?

12. “Magic circles” enclosing one’s name contain exemplary or anti-social impulses?

A Exemplary___ B. Antisocial impulses___

Answers for Lesson 3

1. The upper, middle and lower zones

2. Handwriting confined to the middle zone demonstrates the social person, the today person, the one concerned with Number One and lacking spiritual as well as physical drive.

3. Strong aspiration; where there is strong sexual repression, as is the case here, sadism, masochism, or other unlovely outlets for desire tend to appear.

4. The lower zone.

5. Small middle zone; strong powers of concentration.

6. The middle zone; the social person, the today person, the one concerned with Number One and lacking spiritual as well as physical drive.

7. True

8. Left (reclined)

9. Social timidity

10. The upper zone

11. The lower zone

12. Writing that has inflated lower loops ‘pointing’ leftward

13. Antisocial impulses

Joel Engel is the author of “Handwriting Analysis Self-Taught” (Penguin Books) http://careertest.ws – http://www.learngraphology.com

 

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Aaron

 

How to Look HOT and Sizzling Around the Clock

Thursday, February 5th, 2009
Matthew Rodriguez asked:


Looking good all the time sounds both expensive and impossible. It’s not really about the budget or time; it’s about feeling good in whatever you put on. Sizzle up your appearance with the help of a few tips and you’ll see just how easy it is.

Sacrifice your modesty by wearing something simple in a complex manner. That doesn’t mean slipping into the pants the other way around, it means taking the easiest of clothing like a shirt, slightly baggy, and have it unbutton, wrapped and tucked in. It almost pulls off one of those Thai-tops.

With simplicity, get classy. Wearing red lipstick is back but this time it’s paler for dark skinned women and brighter for the rest. Using lip-liner with a creamy matte in a red will work divine. A reminder that red is not for everybody, so orangery tinge for olive; blue-reds for darker skin tones and rosy reds for blonds.

Accessory is never too cheap, especially in summer, in the bare. Get a cute hair cut and show off your ears and neck with glitz and glamor throughout. Keep on a soft make up at all time to look fresh and it works great with glittering jewelry or a one pendant necklace with the nightwear.

Always a head turner and something to keep less sun and dust on are hats. Add a hat. Simply because it takes guts to wear one and carry it off. Shapes of hats are important to we suggest you stick to the beret or fedora for an easy look.

Nothing catches the eyes better than a bit of smooth and shine effect. This season make it metallic, be it at school, work, at a party or any place you wish your presence be attention seeking. Black has always been the super **** gets-along-with- every color but silver, copper speak the same tone with its luminous effect. As mentioned, simple is in, so keep the texture and carvings easy and let the skin and dress glow wildly.

For the evening look, it’s high time to turn on the exotic fire. Bring out the ethnic hue in strong cheongsam. With Harem pants, or embroidered sleeveless gowns, prepare the night feast in gorgeous colors that add to the feminine charm. Another round of mandarin-collar dress, a something that was tried with casual shirt during the day can come out live at night.

If those low cut fronts have become a déjà vu you, then surprise everyone with a classic straight collar front. This might draw their attention for two seconds but the open back, or with laced-up dress trains is what will get those eyes to follow your behind.

And for the final touch, a little satin or soft sudes in butterfly is the best last image to be on his mind before turning off for the night. Indulge in silky satin with a peek-a-boo play in **** linings and know that not a minute has passed without someone thinking how **** you really look.



Jacob